走自己的路,直到找到出发的理由
要是一个人,能充满信心地朝他理想的方向去做,下定决心过他所想过的生活,他就一定会得到意外的成功。
——戴尔?卡耐基
你会三思而后言吗?你的言语是积极还是消极的影响?如果我能听见你的独白或对话,那会是些怎样的内容?它们是引人愉悦还是让人忧愁?
日常的话语对我们的生活有着极大的影响。它们可以成就你,同时也可以摧毁你。我对你的谨言慎语发出挑战,并且是时候停止下面的话了……
1. 我别无选择。
你一直都有选择。实际上你每天、每时、每分都在选择。别无选择也是一种选择。一旦你对某事说了没有选择后,那你便失去了做出选择的机会。若你对生活中的某事不待见,那就做出改变。
2. 我不行。
是的,你行!即使此刻你身处逆境,也许你会感到挫败,也许你会感到衰老,也许你会感到沮丧,也许你婚姻破裂,也许你失业潦倒。然而关键的是,你还活着!你的旅程还有很长的路未走。要知道,你,无法阻挡!
忘记过去。因为以前的失败并不能否定将来的成功。一切皆有可能。
3.我错失了机会。
查理? 卓别林曾说过: “ 世间没有永恒, 如同我们今日之困。”
你兴许离目标还有一定的距离,但你却清楚你的方向,知道下一步该怎样奋勇向前。对于过去我们无能为力;对于现在我们尚可改变。即使你看不见希望,也要创造希望。
实现理想从不会太晚。只要你在成长,在学习,在适应!
4. 我的目标和梦想可以等。
等什么?梦想和目标不会等人。在你耄耋之年若还没见过自己那全部潜力释放的美丽,这将是个耻辱。
所以要勇敢地去追求梦想。人人都会出于一个动力去做梦,而这个动力就是实现梦想。飞吧!张开你的翅膀!去做你想要成为的人,因为你不会再有第二次生命。这就是为何你必须得成为一个追梦者,一个乐观的人,一个有信仰的人!
5. 他们也许是对的,我肯定错了。
不要让别人混淆了你。你内心早就知道你的渴求。所以要倾听内心的声音。别人可能知道什么最适合他们,但却不知道什么最适合你。引用一句我最喜欢的阿尔伯特?爱因斯坦的话:“随众逐流之人往往不会超越大众。而独自开辟蹊径之人却能处于万人莫及之位。”
即使别人不支持你,也不能说明你就是错的。这个世界没有特定的本质,我们所见就是其本质。而每个人看待它的眼光又有所区别。所以不要害怕。走自己的路,直到你找到出发的理由。
Do you choose your words before speaking?Do you put them to positive or negative use?If I could hear your self-talk or your conversations, what kind of statements would I hear?Statements that create happiness or statements that repel it?
The words we use have a big impact on our lives. They have the power to create or destroy. I challenge you to chose your words wisely and it''s time to stop saying…
1.I don''t have a choice.
You always have a choice. In fact you are choosing every day, every hour, every minute. Not choosing is a choice, too. By saying you don''t have a choice in something, you are giving away your ability to choose.If you don''t like something about your live, make a different decision.
2.I can''t.
Yes, You can! Even if you are in bad situation at the moment—You may feel discouraged. You may feel too old. You may feel upset. You may be sick. You may be divorced. You may be unemployed. But what is important,is that you are ALIVE! Your journey is far from over. Realize that you can do anything!
Forget about previous experiences. Just because you couldn''t do something before doesn''t mean you won''t be able to do it in the future.Everything is possible.
3.I missed my chance.
As Charlie Chaplin once said:""Nothing is permanent in this world, not even our troubles.""
You might not be exactly where you had intended to go, but you are exactly where you need to be to take the next best step forward. We can''t change the past; we can only change the present. If you can''t see the opportunity, build it.
It is never too late to become what you might have been. Keep growing,keep learning, keep adapting!
4.My goals and dreams can wait.
Wait for what?Your dreams and goals can''t wait. It would be a disgrace for you to grow old without ever seeing the beauty and strength of your full potential.
So be brave enough to go after your dreams. We all have dreams for a reason, and that reason is to achieve them. Fly! Spread your wings! Become the person you are meant to be, because you won''t get a second shot at life.
That''s why you owe to be a dreamer, a positive person and a believer!
5.They are probably right, so I must be wrong.
Don''t let others confuse you. Your heart already knows what''s best for you. Listen to it. Others might know what''s best for themselves, but they surely don''t know what''s best for you. A favorite quote of mine by Albert Einstein says:
""The one who follows the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd. Those who walk alone are likely to find themselves in places no one has ever been before.""
Even if people do not support you, that doesn''t mean that you are wrong.The truth is that the world isn''t as it is, but as we see it. And we all see it differently. Don''t be afraid. It''s okay to take a different path, as long as you know why you are doing so.